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Man it was very, very tender to the touch.
My first thought was, "Man, I do not remember banging my head this bad!" Yet there was a slightly raised place on my skull like from a concussion, yet it felt a little crusty. I thought, "What is up with that? Psoriasis?"
Then I noticed above my sideburn there was the same thing. Then I noticed I had some hives by my eye and lip and on my cheek. So I tried 25 mg. of Benedryl. Didn’t even phase it. So before I went to work, I got some Claritin to deal with the wheals. Still nothing. It looked like a pimple or two was trying to form by my lower lip. I thought, "Have I been eating all that fat or greasy of foods? What is up with THIS?"
Next I began to notice some recurring shooting of pain on my head on these spots. And I thought, "Man, what is up WITH THIS?"
I went to bed after having taken some acetaminophen (which I rarely take), but about by 1 a.m., the shooting pain woke me up. And I thought, "Man, What is UP WITH THIS?" I could not go back to sleep. I did not know what to do. I began to think, "Man, I wonder if I have the shingles?"
But then I thought, "Why it can’t be the shingles. I’ve already had that shingles shot that all the old folks are supposed to take." Another shooting pain occurred, and I thought, "Man, what IS UP WITH THIS?"
I went to a web site and just tried to use it like a recipe book. I have these symptoms, tell me what I got. But wouldn’t you know it, I could find no such site. I thought, "Man, WHAT IS UP WITH THIS?"
Now, just to touch the scalp area was painful. The right side of my neck was swollen. I looked at myself in the mirror, and I said, "MAN, WHAT IS UP WITH THIS?"
I began to focus on that maybe I did have shingles after all. Nothing else made sense to me. Of course, I went to the dark side for a moment, and thought maybe I have some weird stage four cancer that is erupting. And then I thought, "Well, no. That is unlikely. I just had a well man physical. Something would have shown up in the blood work."
The pain was getting greater. I thought, "I wonder if I have any hydrocodones left over?" Eureka! I popped two into my mouth at about 3 a.m. Within 20 minutes I was drifting off to sleep.
I made an appointment to see my internist. He is a neat, very knowledgeable, board certified kind of a guy. I love our give and take and verbal sparring. He walked into the room and I said, "I just want to see if you are as good of a diagnostician as I am."
Not taking to it kindly he said, "Listen up! I am better than you are."
I said, "I hope you are, but I just wanted to see if you are at least as good as me. I’m guessing Herpes zoster."
He said, "I knew that before I even came into the room."
I said, "Oh, come on, give me a freaking break. You may be a doctor, but you are not a wizard. Oh, I get it, you heard it from one of your technicians whom I told her that that is what I thought I had!"
He said, "Wrong, camel breath. When I saw on the chart that you had some pain on the right side of your scalp and on top, I said to myself, I said, ‘That dude has shingles.’ When I walked into the door and saw your face my diagnosis was confirmed!"
I said, "Well, you really are a pretty good diagnostician."
Then I sat down and shut up and listened as he lectured me.
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This is a very thorny issue. There is no black and white. Only shades of gray.
Apparently, the Board of Ordained Ministry (BOM) of the Louisville Area of the United Methodist Church is asking candidates for ministry to "friend" Kelly McDonald, not even on the BOM, in order to engage in "Big Brother" monitoring.
Now, to be fair to the Kentucky Annual Conference’s BOM, apparently a prospective "employer" can indeed ask for a FaceBook password (and other social media of its ilk)—just like they can ask for a psychological exam, testamentary evidence from former employers, a physical exam, etc. Of course, a "prospective employee" is not obligated to provide that password, but then neither is the prospective employer obligated to "hire" said prospective employee.
Of course, though, the BOM of the KY conference could do all sorts of workarounds without blatantly asking for "friending." And there is nothing to stop a person who is a friend, and also not under an obligation of any kind of confidentiality, from printing off what he or she reads in the content of a candidate who posted straying words or anathematized behavior.
Yet, for a prospective "employer" to demand such a thing invites all sorts of negative publicity, such as the attention of the ACLU. My experience is that bishops have an instinctual loathing of lawsuits and most will accommodate to a large degree to avoid one without violating conscience or integrity.
If there are "prospective employees" looking at the Kentucky Annual Conference and do not like what they are being asked to do, there are plenty of other conferences who have no such standard for employment.
It’s as simple as that, and as thorny as that.
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"This is crazy! This is crazy! This is crazy! This is crazy!"
That’s what she spoke as I talked to her in the chapel just before the general public was to enter. And indeed, she was right. Her husband of just a few years, dead at 36. So senseless. So stupid. So very crazy.
But that is what an addictive disease can do to you. It can make you act crazy. It can make the lives of the people around you that you love the very most, crazy. And it can come to a stark and senseless end. Way before it should have.
There are just no adequate words to say that will make anything better anytime soon. And some people say the most stupid things in an earnest effort at trying to be helpful, when silence and presence would do so very much more.
But my heart went out to her. Two grade school children whose daddy is gone. And though she may never be able to grasp this, though she will always wonder what she could have done differently, she really did do the absolute very best that she knew how to. She went the second mile. And the third mile. And the fourth mile. And the . . .
Sometimes, things in life are just tragic.
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You learn a lot when you go to see someone, and just sit and listen. I love doing that very thing.
I had always known her as Kathryn. She has a rather serious look to her face. I know that she has traveled lots of miles so to speak in her journey of life. She’ll admit it has been a pretty good one for her many decades.
But when she was much younger, she was Kate or Katie. I found that intriguing. All of a sudden a younger girl appeared who was full of life and activities that involved siblings and cousins—never mind whether they were first or second—they were kin and that is all that mattered.
She’s outlived two of the children she helped to rear. She has outlived two of her husbands, and some days are better than others.
She gets frustrated with her inability to precisely call a name or a date or a place, but the older I get, the more I sympathize.
But what really stunned me was that she was a Beckendorf. And that set of dogs is always related to each other through one way or another. Of course the one I knew the best was Harvey Beckendorf, a fellow clergyman. And then I found out there’s another Beckendorf who is pastoring a church in Beaumont under another name. I felt a kinship with her that I had not previously felt.
She was so appreciative of the visit. It made her day. She said, "You know, you can hardly find anyone anymore who cares about what it was like in days gone by."
But that is not me. I love to hear the stories of days gone by. I find myself, the older I get, ruminating around in my mind decades ago, reliving, dissecting, analyzing, wondering, puzzling about events that I feel certain most everyone else has forgotten about. But somehow they linger brightly in my mind. Why that is so, I don’t really know.
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She pronounces it SHAWN-te-knee’, and I went to take communion to her 90-year-old mother. Florence was deeply appreciative. Shantini had been in church last Sunday, but did not want to “bother” me with a request to bring the sacrament to her mom, because I was leaving in just a few days.
And so she was very surprised when I unexpectedly showed up on her doorstep.
She was very gracious, accommodating, and in a few minutes was able to help her mother down the steps for communion. We all used the Methodist Worship Book for I had brought three copies with me, and we went through the service for Holy Communion in a home.
Afterwards Shantini and I got into a very interesting discussion about Sri Lanka, as that is the family home grounds. Well, while it may be called Sri Lanka (a Sinhalese name), for hundreds of years, it was called Ceylon. The island (off the SE coast of India), is beautiful, but after having gained independence from England, the two predominant ethnic groups began to undergo civil turmoil. The Tamils who tended to be the more educated, and who coalesced in the north and east, had been the ruling class for hundreds of years. But at independence, the Sinhalese became rulers by sheer force of numbers of ballots at the ballot box, and things began to change precipitously. Ceylon was thrown out, and Sri Lanka (a Sinhalese name) took its place. One day, a decree was suddenly made that the Tamil language could no longer be spoken, and overnight most, if not all, Tamil students were kicked out of universities. The world’s first suicide bombers made their appearance in Sri Lanka.
I had no idea about the turmoil, and wished I had made Shantini’s acquaintance much earlier in my stay to glean more of her perspective. Shantini’s mother kept interrupting her narrative telling her in Tamil that I was a busy man and had other things to do besides learning this piece of obscure history. But I loved it, and I thirsted for more of the Shantini's story. Who knows? Maybe she might have taught me a little of their alphabet--a very distinctive lettering that I've not seen elsewhere.
On another day, Shantini took my partner and me through the Southall section of Ealing—it is like the “Little India” section of London. There one can find a Punjab flavour of India, that very multi-cultural country, and the Southall section conveys a representative flavour of that part. As an example, here is the largest Sikh temple outside of India in Southall. While in Southall, we got some mango,tea, and spices.
Shantini was most gracious, accommodating, and had a very infectious smile and a winsome personality.
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Dave and Marian were very generous to invite us over to their house for a supper. Again, very English . . . but then what would you expect? I am in England for crying out loud!
He's a Methodist, don't you know, and she's an Anglican, don't you see? But they have a great marriage, and a generous heart.
The first course was carrot soup. It tasted great, but I could have never identified it as carrot. It was so yellow like there was a lot of butter or food coloring in it. I kept asking if there were such things as yellow carrots.
"Well maybe there are . . . but I've never seen one!"
"So you just blended those kind of carrots that grow In the ground and are orange when you pluck them up?"
"Why, that's the very ones."
"But this soup is so yellow. Did you add some yellow squash to it?"
"Yellow squash? Why not at all!"
"So it's just carrots, is it?"
"Isn't that what I just said?"
"Why, come to think of it, I believe you said the very thing!"
But it was great whatever it was. And that was a huge hurdle for her to cross. I tend to like only raw carrots. I'm just not a fan of cooked carrots unless they are candied in some way. And I don't mean just that thin gruel of a sugar glaze. I mean candied like a think, browned barbecue sauce.
Dinner was great, their back yard was delightful and the gardening evident, but what was superb was BABS.
Now for those of you who do not know, I love barbershop quartet singing. Not that I am in a group or anything, but I love the very close harmony. I wish the church in the village could somehow manage to pull off a song once a month.
At any rate, Dave, who happens to be part of a barbershop society group, had this recording of the American group who had won a gold medal in BABS. They were phenomenal to put it mildly. As I was listening to the introduction by the American chap, I started laughing.
Dave wanted to know what was so funny.
I said, "That bloke doesn't have an accent!"
"Doesn't have an accent?" And then he could see what I meant.
A song that really focused the difference between American and English cultures' use of the language, was using a version of George & Ira Gershwin’s, “Let’s Call the Whole Thing Off.”
They highlighted the way we say and use different words and expressions—tomato; potato; loo, bathroom; queue, in line; diversion, detour; etc. It was a lot of fun sitting with our British hosts and laughing about how differently we use our common language.
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A friend of mine, Ted Campbell, a Beaumont boy, asked me what was distinctive about Southeast Texas. This is some of how I responded:
Houston claims to represent SE Texas, but as anyone from the Golden Triangle knows, it just ain't so. The ethos of Southeast Texas truly is much more likely to be found within the confluence of the Trinity, Neches, and Sabine rivers that wind and twist through its very soul.
At first I wanted to say that what is distinctive is its geography. But that is not accurate. Even though a geologist could map out the convergence of the piney woods with the coastal plain, what is distinctive is much deeper than what can be seen or touched or heard.
I think that at root and core, what is distinctive is an intangible nexus of the raw bounty this land had to offer in making a fortune—or at least a way of life—from fishing in the waters of the bay or gulf, to the timbers of its mighty forests, to the fertile land yielding a rich bounty of rice, or the drilling for black gold and its many spin-off industries. Long before derivatives were some arcane financial component to a corporate back page, it was alive and well in Southeast Texas with its magnetic siren call beckoning to those looking for a higher wage, a better standard of living, than could be found from its contiguous geographic cousins. It was a call that few could resist.
The promised yield was nearly mesmerizing. The opportunity for a better life was appealing. The conjoining of the rich and poor, the black and white, the educated and the uncultivated, provided a rich brew that bequeathed to the residents of Southeast Texas, a malt in which friendships could be forged, in which ideas could be distilled, and in which memories could be sifted endlessly—whether through the turbulence of parsing junior high alliances or the sophisticated pastiche of people bent on improving not just their economic lot, but the very heart of their social fabric as well.
The environment, the context that engenders southeast Texas is unique to itself, and yet like so many other areas, is a rich loam from which could be fashioned and formed lives that made a difference—contemporaneously, as well as historically.
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Kathleen and Peter were very generous and took us motoring out to Oxfordshire.
Now let me explain to my American friends. “Shire” was originally an old name for county. So Oxfordshire (pronounced OX-ferd-sher) is Oxford County. In a lot of ways, that area is like home for Peter who is in his 80’s.
On the way to Burford, we went through Oxford University. It was amazing to see this campus. It has to be one of the most prestigious universities in the entire world. I’m not sure that I saw Christ Church (the college where John Wesley studied), but I might have and did not know it.
On our way to eat, we stopped at Huffkins
to have a spot o’ tea. It was great. High Street which this faces must have a 1:4 elevation rise! The Mrs. And I walked around town, and they were having a bazaar in the basement of the Burford Methodist Church (Zoom out and it's to the right of the Gallery) there on High Street.
We then stopped at the Church of St. James the Great (zoom in all the way to the point and double click on the church at the top of the picture) across the river at Fulbrook. This church has been in existence since the 1200’s. Absolutely astonishing to me. They finally decided to take out a few pews from the back of the nave, and use more flexible seating to have a social area in which to visit and for community use. Since doing that, the church has had more people to come to it.
We had lunch at the Masons Arms at Fulbrook.
It was a pub at which we ate a wonderful meal.
(The insides were really much darker. The camera inside of my telephone compensates for the lighting in a way over which I had no control). I had Oxford sausages and for dessert I had Apricot pudding. But it is not pudding as we think of in America. It is much more akin to the style and substance of bread pudding, albeit there is no bread in Apricot pudding. (Just like Yorkshire pudding is not pudding as we think of it in America, but a baked, stiff, puffy, wonderful delicacy that was eaten before the main course, filled with gravy so that guests and family members would not eat as much meat!)
From there we saw a lot of the country side. I have a couple of pics from St. Edward’s at Stow on the Wold (that's the name of the town).
You have to almost be rich to live in England. Two of our dollars about equals one pound (£). Some of the residences out in the country with their dry stack stone walls were breath taking. It was like in one of these kinds of places that people like John Lennon or Madonna would be living I suppose.
A very moving day and we covered lots of sites.
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I went to the Good Companion group at the Acton Hill Church. It was a group that met in the back of a sanctuary designed to seat 1,000 people.
Quite an impressive structure with stone facing (though this is the old church just around the corner, but you get the idea). They were cordial, meaning not all of them fell asleep as I described my call into ministry, and a little of how we have had to do things differently at Terrace in order to survive and grow. And that attendance has grown by 12% in three years as a result.
Graham, their lay leader was so gracious to collect me at the manse and drop me off again. On the way back, we got to talking about the common language that divides our two great nations, e.g., they have no trucks in England. What they have instead are lorries. And police officials are not called cops. Perhaps coppers, but never cops. Cop is an Americanism that probably comes from the meaning of nabbing someone. We stand in line. In Britain they queue. In NYC they stand on line.
In Britain, the further north you go toward Scotland, the more difficult Londoners find their ability to understand the accents in northern England!
For supper we went to Maxim’s.
We are fortunate that it is on the same block where we live right around the corner. It is most likely one of the best 4-5 Chinese restaurants in all of London.
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