One thing that I noticed on this trip to NYC were the number of people listening to iPODs. It is apparently a custom there that you do not look into people’s eyes, and want only the minimum amount of interaction with other people.
At the Metropolitan Museum, I tried to engage an officer in some conversation asking him things like, "I see you are in some kind of special service here for the Met. Is that a highly sought after position?" And he gave basically one word answers to my questions and grew visibly anxious as I would try to wait a few moments and ask another question. He started lumbering back and forth like an elephant does in a cage when it is nervous. He would smile and say things like, "Yes, that’s it!" Or "You got it!" Or "Absolutely." He grew so pensive and distraught, that he physically walked over to another section of the Museum so that he would not have to interact with me. I was posing no threat. I look fairly decent. He was really doing virtually nothing, but he interpreted me as a nuisance. He didn’t want to converse. He never said that. He didn’t say, "Hey, what’s with the drill here?" He just walked away. He was on overload. A few moments later his superior officer came up to another officer and asked, "Hey, where’s Billy?"
"I don’t know . . . wait, maybe he’s over by the check closet."
"He’s supposed to be here. What’s up with him?"
I smiled.
But another time, late at night I asked a man in a suit where the nearest subway station was, and in a loud voice has shot back"Yeah, where ya going?"
Well, I did not know where I was going. The subway system is a maze to me. I had to look at our middle son and ask, "Where are we going?"
And he mumbled something.
The New Yorker said, "You want to go to Grand Central? What train you trying to catch?"
Well, I did not have a clue what train I was trying to catch. I just wanted to get to a station so that I could look at a map on the way with all these blue and orange lines overlapping each other as if it made some kind of sense and just try to guess where I was and where I was trying to go. So I said, "The S train." I did not know if that was right or wrong.
He says, "The S train? Ya wanna go on the S train?"
I thought I did, but maybe I did not. I mean I didn’t know. I just wanted to find the nearest subway station.
‘Well it’s up here." And he basically walked off.
Now what does "Up here" mean? (At least it was better than Up Yours). I mean was it like 2 blocks? Was it three? Was it four? Which side of the street. Was I just supposed to keep walking the same way I was walking? I began to see that the people who live on Manhattan island only want to talk to people they know. Somehow it is dangerous or annoying to talk to others. Hence, they never meet your eyes. And they are wired for sound with iPODs. On the trains at first I thought, I couldn’t believe what a literate group you got here in NYC, then I realized that for the most part they were reading trash, and a face pointed toward a book was a device to avoid your stare or meet your eyes. I thought, "Man, what an island."