Getting Loose

Wisconsin Death Trip

My wife and I saw Wisconsin Death Trip tonight. I did not know what to expect.

It pulls you in, is shot in somewhat of a documentary style, is based on true stories, and teaches you that some things never change—unrequited love, depression, despair, tragedy, the older generation trying to transmit values to the younger generation, and the lengths to which people will go to cope with the vagaries of life.  

I discovered that the context in which we live in the 21st century is not all that different than it was in a remote backwater area of Wisconsin some 110 years ago.

It was haunting, but nor horrific. Sad, but not pitiful. Contemplative, but not overbearing.

ENTP

Yup. That’s my pigeonhole, my personality type according to Meyers-Briggs.

I had 8 members of my staff go for a workshop assessing our types. I understood many things as a result.

One staff member always moans when asked to do something. But that is what that "type" does! To get information out of me, you have to ask the right question.

According to Marina Margaret Heiss, my letters mean that my type are usually verbally as well as cerebrally quick, and generally love to argue—both for its own sake, and to show off. We tend to have a perverse sense of humor as well, and enjoy playing devil's advocate. We sometimes confuse, even inadvertently hurt, those who don't understand or accept the concept of argument as a sport.

My type are as innovative and ingenious at problem-solving as they are at verbal gymnastics. We have been known to cut corners without regard to the rules if it's expedient.

My group is basically optimistic, however, we tend to become extremely petulant about small setbacks and inconveniences.

In terms of our relationships with others, ENTPs are capable of bonding very closely and, initially, suddenly, with their loved ones. Some appear to be deceptively offhand with their nearest and dearest; others are so demonstrative that they succeed in shocking co-workers who've only seen their professional side. ENTPs tend to be oblivious of the rest of humanity, except as an audience—good, bad, or potential.

Humph.

Just So

I first noticed it when our children were young.  In trying to feed them in their weaning process, I would open my mouth with my eyes wide open trying to get them to open their mouth, so I could shovel the food in.  You know--monkey see, monkey do.

Well, recently I was in the play Annie.  And like it or not, with all the bright lights, you have to wear makeup in order to not look washed out.  That means you have to wear lipstick as well.  And my wife in trying to apply the right shade of lipstick to my lips would open her mouth wide in order to get me to imitate her, which I did . . . you know--monkey see, monkey do.

Well, I have now noticed on more than one occasion that after I have shampooed my hair and am blow drying it, that when I go to brush it into place, I see in the mirror that I am holding my mouth open in some sort of way as if that had something to do with getting my hair just into the right place.  I thought, What is up with that?  And I would promptly shut it.  But somehow the process seemed to go better if I opened my mouth just so.

There must be some connection here--getting something just into the right place and opening your mouth--but I don't get it.

Easter, 2009

Every Sunday ought to be Easter.  And in a sense that is always true.  No matter what season through which we are passing, every Sunday ought to be a little Easter.

In spite of the very threatening weather, we had more people at church this year than last.  It was gratifying to see all the visitors and be able to show off new programs and venues.  Life can be good!

Walter Eugene Meredith

Time has a way of mellowing things out.

I went today to the funeral of our 1967 senior class president from French High School in Beaumont, Texas—Gene Meredith. Believe it or not, he was actually younger than me, and I was one of the youngest people in our class. He died from the effects of a brain glioma. He was a valiant fighter, lasting longer than anyone thought possible.

But it was interesting mixing and mingling with different class mates. While 40+ years ago, there was such class striation with the top group, the "in" crowd, the goat ropers, the athletes, etc., now it seems more to me than we better relate, we are friendlier because we are all survivors in one sense or another.

One of our high profile people in school, Marilyn Dent, died a few years back. That shocked me. She was way too young, but then her older brother Gilbert had been killed at an even younger age than she. And I remember thinking at the time, "If Marilyn can die, then so can I."

But now it was Gene. In some ways, he and his wife Peggy, were the glue that held our class together. Gene was so personable, happy go lucky, full of enthusiasm, interested in the plight of the overlooked or less fortunate. I remember a mild dirty joke he told in high school in one of the portable air conditioned buildings, maybe Mr. Wilson’s class, that made me laugh, and I will not impugn his memory to tell it here, but he had a ready smile and was one of the better looking guys in our class.

His brother Bill has to be the best preserved specimen of anyone I have ever seen looking so very nearly like he did in high school. Still nearly jet black hair that is just now starting to grey. He’s got to be 61! And his wife DeEsta looks pretty nearly the same from high school

I saw Libby Ruysnaars there. I hadn’t seen her in over 40 years. Amazing.  And Rodney Sheffield, and Jerry Rials, and Nancy Budd, and Sandra Golding, and John Wynn, and Suzy Poole, and Steve McAdams, and Jerry Lynne Webber, and Frank Rao, and Bubba Pate, and of course Bruce Gary, and the girl that cut me down to size some 50 years ago—Donna Jo Anderson. I figure I’ve licked my wounds about as much as I can over that rejection.  She decided that she did not want to be my valentine after all.  Talk about the pain and loss of self-esteem!  But I rode with her to the graveyard, so it can’t be all that bad now.

The world is a very different place now in so many ways . . . but then my parents and grandparents have said the same kind of thing with respect to the world in which they grew up. Who knows what the future holds?  I surely do not.